Does my constant grief disturb the peace of the people I've lost — should I try to let go?

“I thought about my mother and felt that she would need time to overcome my loss, but I also was optimistic that she would understand my decision. And so I answered, 'With time she will also overcome this and both of them will get along without me.'”8:40

“Mother told me that if I stayed in heaven, my living mother would be very sad to lose me. I saw no reason for sadness, and I loved my living mother very much.”22:27

“And she said the same thing to Grandma, which was, please tell my Mom to stop grieving, she's okay, Mom's grief is holding her back.”15:41

“For example, when my mother died at the beginning of the year, I was so happy for her. I was so happy that she finally did it. I was crying, surely because she was gone for me, but this feeling that no matter what we have to go through on earth, we are all right. We go where everything is good.”11:55

“And she said, looking at my mom, she looks like a bag of bones. Her not signed because she's so stressful where the daughters died. I said, "Well, help her. Help her to get into her mind and tell her that you're happy and you've passed on, but you're still there with them."”34:26

“I did all that I could to comfort my mother because I wanted her not to feel the pain and the grief and the sorrow; I wanted her to know that I loved her, and that she loved me, and that that was eternal, that was the only thing that truly existed beyond things that are composed and decompose and break down, that was a true reality.”54:35

“sad and grieving them. They actually want us to celebrate them because they're the happiest that they have ever been in heaven. You know, my mom passed away last year and she came to me in a visitation dream and she said, "Alyssa, don't be so sad because I'm the happiest that I have ever been." And she was no longer in her old sick, tight, suffering body. She was young. And she was beaming. She was glowing. You know, she was so happy that when I woke up, that was the last time I cried that she died,”67:51

“Well, the first one was a relief for my mother for me and my mother because when she died, it was like, she's not in that body. I don't know where she is. Okay? And that gave me a confirmation that she is fine. She is better than fine. So I was able to come to peace with that. And and that was the peace.”40:33

“But during this difficult time of grief, I wasn't able to realize this, but it helped my mother, on the other hand. She died without any fear at all and even told us everything will be fine. She kept repeating the things which have been said to me by the highest realm. 'No, children, don't be scared.'”28:02

“They told me I was holding on not just to my own emotions, but to what I felt like I was doing wrong as a mother. They said to me, "You have to release this sorrow."”6:28

“as a mother who is newly in grief. But I realized that it didn't serve me to hold on to that guilt, to think like that. What I had to understand is that I gave my son the opportunity to live his life the way he wanted. Believe me, when he walked out the door to tell me he was going cliff diving, I didn't have a panic attack. And think back to that moment that he was born. But we have to, you know, we're still here experiencing this wonderful um earthly experience to to learn and to um you know go through”10:22

“He said, tell my mom I'm fine. I have no pain. I am very happy. I'm at peace, and I want you to know that. Will you tell my mom?”23:58

“My mom and my dad started crying, like, you know, really bad, but I felt peace because it reassures me what I've been thinking I had throughout all these past months. So now I'm at peace, you know, now I'm reassured, but my mom and my dad is there crying, thinking that I'm going to die.”2:19

“So I think that's the biggest thing for me about grief is just honoring yourself and honoring the emotions, and it's a wave. It comes and it goes, and don't ever feel bad those moments you feel good. Your loved ones on the other side want you to feel good.”43:49

“That feeling of peace and happiness still stays with me, and I know my mom is just fine.”2:09

“And above all, the gift of peace. I hated my mother so much that I could not have found peace within myself alone, and with what I had experienced and suffered through, I could not have made peace with my mother.”27:44